- Even in a fight or a disagreement, ALWAYS remember that the other person loves you. You’re there to work out the problems together, not to hurt the other person or make them feel worse. Work together to resolve it but remember, you’re in this together.
- Divorce is not an option. 3 out of 4 marriages end in divorce and it breaks my heart.
- Honour your hubby, even in the little things.
- Put your husband first. I remember a time when I was serving swordfish and one of the pieces of fish looked better so I put it on my plate! Yes, I’m not ashamed to tell you for the purpose of the blog!! Anyway, I quickly felt convicted and actually apologized to Tim about it. It was really early on in our marriage and has served as a good reminder ever since.
- Never talk badly about your hubby to others. Sometimes we wanna grumble with the girls or moan but it just doesn’t help and it certainly doesn’t honour.
- Communicate about everything. Once a month we try and take stock of where we’re at. Sometimes the conversation will go like this, “If you keep doing ……, you’re going to drive me crazy!!” It really helps to be proactive about things that bother you before you have to be reactive and cause a fight.
- Find out his love language and start speaking it. Gary Chapman came out with a great book, The 5 Love Languages, that has revolutionized the way I think about relationships. Sometimes it takes a while to realise that although you think you’re doing what the other person wants, you aren’t speaking their language.
- Set up date nights and keep them. I don’t care if you’re tired, the dog is sick or there isn’t much spare cash, date nights will help keep the spark alive. We’ve done things as lavish as private plane rides to as small as taking bread and cheese to the park and we’ve had tons of fun at both!
What things have you learned? What helps your marriage? Leave a comment and share!