“Timmmmmmmmmmmm, are you serious? Why didn’t you just pick that up??” I moaned loudly after getting back from a shopping trip. He’d watched the kids while I’d been gone and yet hadn’t picked up after them in quite the way I would have done. Sure they were cleaned and fed but I’m always right and he’s always well…a mess so I probably should yell right?
There are many things we can be as a wife but one of them should not start with MOT and end with HER. There are moments that I treat my Husband like it’s my God-given right to correct his mistakes, and mention all his faults.
Sure mine are glaringly obvious but woes betide if he brings any of them up!
When he messes up we feel justified in our desire to punish our Husbands but if God doesn’t treat him as His sins deserve what makes us feel like we can?
Ephesians 2:4 says it like this,
“It’s a wonder God didn’t lose his temper and do away with the whole lot of us. Instead, immense in mercy and with an incredible love, he embraced us. He took our sin-dead lives and made us alive in Christ.”
3 Tips For Today
Here’s a few ways today that you can start showing your Husband mercy and grace EVEN if he doesn’t return the favor:
1) Get over it and quit acting emotionally.
We have a tendency as girls to overreact a little and fight for issues that God never meant for us to deal with. One is our own sense of justice.
2) Don’t keep a record of wrongs.
If you’re yelling about hurts that were done years ago during a disagreement, you need to take it to God. In the same way that God throws our sins as far as the east is from the west, we need to forgive and forget too.
3) Apologize Quickly.
If you allow things to fester it will only get worse. Roots can bury deep deep down and what they produce is huge trees of bitterness that are harder to remove later.
When we display kindness we are reflecting Jesus, not our old selves. Kindness is not about helping the giver but the receiver but in turn the giver gets blessed as God sees our heart and motive and is happy.
Hayley DiMarco says this in her EXCELLENT book the Fruitful Wife,
“Offering forgiveness seems like a dangerous thing to a heart that doesn’t personally know the depths of God’s grace. But the person who has been forgiven much finds forgiveness supernaturally easier to give.”
Offer grace and mercy today as you allow God to let you overflow with love!
This book, the Fruitful Wife has quickly become a favorite of mine and has proved invaluable over the past few weeks. I’d HIGHLY recommend it!